Money weighs on would-be Chinese parents as population falls

"For me, children could be a bit more difficult, with all the practical concerns you have to consider," he told AFP.

Childbirth in China usually comes after a wallet-draining process of buying a home, finding a spouse, and paying for a lavish wedding, with government policy penalising births out of wedlock despite recent moves in some regions to support unwed mothers.

Parents then race to ensure their children excel at school and university to succeed in the cut-throat jobs market, feeding a massive afterschool tuition market that the government has cracked down on with limited success.

The average cost in 2019 of raising a child in China from birth to age 18 was 485,000 yuan ($68,000), according to Beijing-based thinktank YuWa Population Research.  

That was nearly seven times the country's GDP per capita that year—a ratio far exceeding the United States' 4.11 or Australia's 2.08.

That does not include the apartment that parents are often expected to help sons buy to secure a bride.

"For my friends, if they have a stable job and their careers are stable... they will start to want children," Xiaopeng said.

"For me, I feel like raising pets is more appropriate than raising a child."

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'No marriage, no kids'

"The younger generation has fundamentally changed its conception of fertility and is generally unwilling to have more children," He Yafu, an independent Chinese demographer, told AFP.

Growing numbers of young adults proudly flaunt their childfree lifestyles on social media.

"No marriage, no kids" is a popular topic on the Chinese pop culture website Douban, with thousands of users exchanging views and seeking reassurance on their childfree lifestyles.

"Can you really sacrifice so much just to hear someone call you 'mama'?" one asked recently.

Cao, a mother-of-one in her thirties from the western city of Xi'an, said a lot of her friends were "DINKs", an acronym for couples with double incomes and no kids.

She cited economic concerns as a reason people hesitated to have children.

"Before you have a child you have to think about educating them, and people definitely want their children to go to better schools," she told AFP.

While public education fees are relatively affordable in China, prestigious schools prioritise admission for children living nearby, resulting in sky-high prices for cramped, outdated accommodation in areas near sought-after schools.

Women's work

Unlike many, Cao, who asked to be identified only by her surname, said she can count on substantial childcare help from her husband.

In 2021, 63.7 percent of Chinese children under the age of three were  cared for primarily by their mothers during the day, according to a UN report.

Working women spent double the amount of time men did caring for family members.

Despite scattered government efforts to increase fathers' involvement in child-rearing, the national paternity leave allowance is around two weeks—measly compared to around three months for new mothers.

Xiaopeng said that at his workplace he sees mainly women accompanying their children.

Visiting a hospital in Shanghai with her husband, 28-year-old Xiang, who is expecting her first child, said being pregnant was "exhausting".

She is considering hiring a confinement nanny or even moving into a specialised hotel after giving birth, during the traditional 30-day period when new mothers are expected to receive special meals and care -- a custom that can cost tens of thousands of dollars for each birth.

She believes most young people are "comprehensively" weighing the cost of childcare before having babies.

"You can't just say you are having a child and then do it... the process of raising a child requires huge support in terms of mental effort and finances."